Okay. I guess the caviat is: IF you plan to do much sailing with a buddy, DON'T get an H14 because it's a dog with two people. I hear the H17 isn't good with two either. My fiancée and I pitchpoled her H14 going only (I think) 12 knots or so because me+her=fat for a H14. It'd be worse with a jib (H14T) for obvious reasons. The dang leeward bow really digs down with two people on it in a good wind.
I'd go back to looking at the H16 for multi-person sailing, and then maybe look into the Power Righting system. I haven't played with this at all but it looks like it'd give a smaller person more leverage than just a standard righting line and help make it easier / safer for you to single-hand a 16.
DON'T GIVE UP! It's fun! Wheee!
In other news, I have a video my fiancée took of me righting my H16 solo for the first time last year. It is here:
http://www.JaimeZX.com/OT/MOV01016.MPG (5.7MB)
Because of the poor resolution, I'll do a quick rundown on what you'll be seeing if you watch it:
(You'll hear Ming narrating, but she doesn't know exactly what I'm doing so don't listen to her. HEHEH)
You can see the red dot (me) bending down in the front of the boat, filling the righting bucket (bag).
Then I stand up, throw the bag over my shoulder, and lean back.
Then I wait, and the boat comes up slowly.
Then Ming shouts with joy.
THEN I jump back on the boat and start fidgeting with the sheets and the boat starts moving again.