Sounds to me like your not keeping enough weight forward during your tack - that would allow the bows of your 16 to come to high and since its heavy wind bows high = wind under the tramp - you've been sailing a long time so im sure your aware that the 16 can flip in all 4 directions. if your not racing then the backwinded jib is fine but only for recreational sailing - You cant tack unless you have a good amount of boat speed and everything MUST be sheeted in block to block. Dont be afraid if you go on a hull because the block to block setup rakes your mast back more and you can work the stick better. Once your in tight with good speed ease the rudders gradually adding pressure and make sure your crew sails the jib thru the tack keeping the tale-tales parallel to each other