If you're reaching you'll never get to the weather mark. Learn to read your telltales. Get jib in tight and head up until the telltales are streaming straight back on both sides of the sail.

Trim the main sheet in until the leech telltales start to pull around to the lee side. Slack off until they stream straight back.

Once you figure all this out you can start S coursing. Watch the jib telltales. Push the rudders over slowly so the windward telltale moves up to 45 degrees. Back off and bring it back to horizontal. Keep doing that slowly and you'll work yourself up to the weather mark faster.

JMHO