Hi, Bryce,
From reading your post, I would say the options are obvious:
1. Gain weight
2. Reduce sail
3. Don't go out when the wind is over 12
4. Get a less powerful boat.

If the boat sails okay without the jib, I don't see any reason not to do it -- unirigs seem to be the "in" thing these days.

And you might want to talk to Sabre Sails about the possibility of making your main reefable and, if the jib does not furl, making it furlable.

It's good that you recognize in advance the need to have ways to reduce power.