Hi Jody
By all means find out what other peoples settings are but don't forget as Matt pointed out recently no two masts, sails and the way you sail/race is the same.
Your main should have tell tales roughly 2-3 feet above the spreaders and roughly a foot inside the luff, Set your spreaders to keep these tell tales flying as close to 100% as possible. If you don't have these tell tales in the above area you'll never know if you have the correct, matching mast to luff curve.