Josh,
the best advice we got when learning to douse was never douse going downwinnd. It blows the chute forward and underneath your boat. Head into the wind a little and douse quickly. The wind will blow the chute back away from the bows.
We had problems getting the sheets tangled around the end pole hoop, ans this was also a solution.

David Mosley
Team SEACATS

The men were amazed, and said, "What kind of a man is this, that even the winds and the sea obey Him?" Matthew 8:27