I solo a Mystere 6.0 and I weigh less than 200 pounds.
When it is blowing over 16 knots, I put up a mainsail that is 15% smaller,(Tornado square top), leave the jib in the box, and flatten like hell.
I'm in MDR and that make's us somewhat neighbors. Maybe the solution is to team up when it's blowing like that.
Are you talking about the conditions we had on Friday, April 8th?
GARY