Norfolk, VA??
Give me a call $757-589-6920 and I'll let you know about a few places.
The best in Va Beach is the Albemarle St. access on Chicks Beach on the Bay. It is off of Shore Drive near the Lesner bridge.
I don't know of many specific places in Norfolk, but when you come over the bridge-tunnel from Hampton, take the first exit and there is a really nice boat ramp on Willoughby Spit. Back in the protected 'bay', the sailing is great because there is usually wind and the water is flat.