OK,
thanks for your feed back. I guess there are some options. The opaque nets sound feasible on any tri or cat. Maybe not ideal for the forward nets though. Then keeping her in the center hull of a tri... I suppose that means having everything lead back to the ****. Again, that's not a problem for a self built boat.
I guess we'll just have to rent and see after all though. Building a boat only to find out she doesn't trust it is a tough call.

Dennis