This may be the problem; you need to let the sterns drift down wind; not swim/kick the bows to the wind.
If you are forward you are sinking the bows; trying to swim them round is going to be difficult/impossible; let the wind blow the higher-flowting sterns to drift away.
Problem is if there is a strong current from the same direction. The bows being pushed down dig into the current. Usually, it results in a 45% angle to the wind.
