Based on all the info I got from the original thread:
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OOps, the forum won't let me post this as a new topic. Okay, so down with Netiquette then![/edit]

I concluded:
Jeez, the options are dazzling...

Some info up front:
I sail in the south of the Netherlands, Grevelingen.
(maps.google.com --> "Grevelingen, NL") The other major waters you see around there are my "surf", so to speak. They are not really sheltered because the country is as flat as a pancake, but it depends on the wind direction. A swell can easily build from 5Bft onwards, with wave lengths of around 10-12 Meters and top-trough heights of about 1-1.5meters (my estimates). There are no breaking waves except maybe the odd one from interference.

The wind is all over the place. luckily I get to pick when I go out or stay home. I generally enjoy sailing between 3Bft and 5Bft. Above that is what I get into whenever I'm not back in time to beat the summer thunderstorms home. I call it "Survival mode".

I'll need to single hand often, but family sailing should be easy in light winds. While I don't intend to race, I do consider an active class organization a definite advantage. Mainly because of parts (knowledge) and used sails availability.

The kids are small still, like 2 and almost 1. That means I won't be taking them out this season, but the oldest should be ok next year whenever the water is flat (and there are no thunderstorms brewing).

I'm still very much planning what to do, and trying to keep an open mind to any possibilities.

I agree about being able to right the boat single handedly, that is a definite MUST. I do NOT want to be the one giving cats a bad name around here. And I don't want to be a statistic like that poor never to be old Sven Chang.

I'm also a do-it yourself type of guy. I do not like the idea of buying anything that is made from polypropylene or polyethylene. I can handle glass and epoxy, but There is no way I know of, of fixing sloppy PP/PE (I still have nightmares from the days of my old surfboard).

The Nacra 5.0 (+500?) looks like a nice 'all-round' boat I could handle. With those huge floats it should be able to handle me and my wife. The Dart 18 looks nice too, but is also a lot bigger.

Any other ideas?
Dennis