Andinista,
Hey: Gotcha. That's exactly what I call bungling... I just don't tend to blame the wind or any external factor. I truly believe the root cause of most problems I encounter is between my own ears. The advantage is that this allows me to fix things efficiently (once I find out). The disadvantage: it can get depressing from time to time...

One exception you mentioned though: Looking at girls 9esp. on other boats). A boat is like a wife... Look at another and she always takes revenge. When you are sailing "there can be only one"...
Naah, I'm just pulling your leg.