Pete,
I have the same problem as you when going to windward, that is getting out on the trapeze; however, I did this past weekend and it helps, BIG TIME.
If it's blowing, get out on the TRAPEZE, that will help you point and keep the boat down better. I was still a little slow, but I think there were two reasons for this...
1. I needed to move my body more forward on the boat. I was at or a little behind the sidestay and the bows were out of the water which creates drag... I needed to move more forward, but I didn't because I'm still getting used to doing this....
2. I was probably pointing a little high trying to keep the boat down which is a little slow...
So, get out, sheet in as much as possible and keep the boat down....
Of course, I'm a newbie, so what do I know!!!!
Mike