Well...there is that! <img src="http://www.catsailor.com/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I see there are more than a few women sailing/crewing on competitive F18s, so that tells me the loads aren't too much of an issue apparently. That said, playing around with different purchase systems was something in the back of my mind in case we found ourselves with more than she can handle, but I don't think it'll be a problem.

What about me steering and us handing the main back and forth (me doing most of it with her grabbing the reigns periodically as onboard events demand)? This is how we always sailed our Mirage, she'd set/trim the jib, I'd work the main and tiller. Depending on how we wanted to sail, we'd either park both sheets and steer through wind changes, I'd tweak main trim and heading continuously, or that plus her tweaking the jib trim continuously. Granted, a performance cat is a totally different beast, but the concept is the same.