I'm sure Rick White gives "slow down" advice in "Catamaran Sailing for the '90s". There was a discussion recently as to whether that book was still valid as a refernce. IMHO, this is a perfect example of its validity.

The real problem here is age, imo. Younger people are not yet able to accept that "you have to give a little to get a little". I think this has more to do with the maturation process than personal values.